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When you break up with someone, you will find that it is hard for you to take your mind off of them. It is always hard to take your mind off of your ex after a breakup. You need to make a conscious effort to focus your mind on other things to stop thinking about them.

There Are 5 Major Ways For You To Do So…

1. Have a Girls/Boys Night
Having a night with your friends is the best way to get your mind off of someone. Hanging out with the girls (or boys) will help to bring you into a better mood. It will help you to focus on other activities. You need this distraction to take your mind off of your ex.

2. Give Yourself a Trip to the Spa
Spas are incredibly relaxing and peaceful. Going to a spa is an easy way to get your mind off of someone. You can clear your mind of all thoughts when you are at the spa. Simply focus on the treatment that you are receiving, and the relaxation you feel. While it may only be for a short time, the relaxation can be key to your long-term effort to get over your ex.

3. Cleanse Your Life (get rid of everything that reminds you of them)

You cannot take your mind off of someone if you are constantly reminded of them. You need to get rid of everything that you have that reminds you of them. Some people stow away all of these belongings. Others burn them ceremoniously. Choose the method that will help you to get your mind off of the person as fast as possible.

4. Go Out!

If you are trying to get your mind off of an ex, you need to get out of the house. If you stay in your house, you will simply wallow in self pity, thinking of the person that you used to be with. Going out, whether it be with friends or by yourself, will keep you from thinking about what couldÕve been.

5. Travel

If you have the money to do so, this is the perfect time to travel. When you travel, you are caught up in the excitement of the new place that you visit. Traveling is an easy and exciting way to take your mind off of someone.

You need to give yourself something to think about when you are trying to take your mind off of your ex after a breakup. You need to do things that will consume your attention and focus. Spa trips, downtown trips, and travel trips can be an easy way to do so.

These 5 tips are how to cope with a break up, and will simply give you different ways to take your focus and attention away from your ex.

You feel all out of sorts, cause you’re getting through a break up, and life as you’ve known it prior to the break-up gets turned all upside down, and chances are you’re not quite sure which way is up right now.

While I do understand how painful it is recovering from a breakup, there are a few things you can do to help transition back into at least a semblance of “normal” life.

The key is to put your focus on something else.

It may take a little time, but doing this will take some of the edge off the pain you’re feeling and let you move on through life without having to deal with a lot of the blocks and re-starts some folks can’t seem to get past.

Instead, they get stuck in “life without him/her mode” and have a hard time moving forward.

Don’t let this happen to you.

Break-up’s are painful, yes. But the truth is, the world hasn’t ended, even if it does tend to feel like yours is falling apart at the moment. Life will and does go on – with or without you.

You, however, are a survivor. You won’t stay trapped in the past, because you’ll be moving forward.

For the first few weeks, it may be best if you don’t go to the places you and she/he often frequented together, and don’t try to hang out with what should be mutual friends.

You can pick up these extended relationships later, but for now, concentrate on things you know make you feel good that do not have a connection to him/her.

If you have trouble coming up with something to focus on, take some time to think about the kinds of things you enjoyed before you began your relationship.

Did you have a hobby you’ve kind of let go?  Was there something you were passionate about before you and s/he met? Really give it some thought, and then start to do those things.

The more involved you become in doing things that make you feel good, the better you will feel. In time (faster than you think) you’ll be able to call on those friends you and s/he both enjoyed spending time with, and even face-to-face meetings with your ex will be easier to handle.

Just remember when dealing with breakups, to put your focus on doing things that make you feel good, and you’ll beat those break-up blues in no time!

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Emotions are quite difficult for many people to understand.  This is because many emotions and feelings are very personal  issues, ones which are not often discussed.  So, it is easy to see how a great number of people can be confused about their feelings for their exes.  In fact, it is not unusual for someone to wonder, Do I still love my ex, even for months or years after the relationship has ended.

Figuring out your feelings for your ex can help you to move on to new and more successful relationships.  Any unresolved emotions dealing with your ex could actually impact your future relationships–and not in a good way.  Once you figure out whether or not you still love your ex, you will be able to deal with the issue and then move on from there.

Dealing with a break up is only hard, if you have feelings for your ex. How can you determine what your feelings are for your ex?  Take a look at the following questions and think about your answers.  Your answers will tell you what you feel for your ex.

• Do you feel a strong desire to see your ex?

If you still love your ex, you likely want to see your ex or talk to your ex on the phone quite often.  Perhaps you have called your ex’s voice mail just to hear his or her voice, or maybe you have driven by your ex’s house or place of work in hopes of seeing him or her outside.  Or, you may have “accidentally” bumped into your ex at a restaurant or bar.

• How often do you think about your ex?

If you still love your ex, chances are he or she is on your mind constantly.  Whenever a love song comes on the radio or whenever you happen to see a romantic scene on the television or in the movies, you immediately think of your ex.  When something interesting or upsetting happens in your life, the first person you think to call is your ex.

• How does it feel to think about your ex being with someone else?

If you are still in love with your ex, the thought of him or her being with someone else probably makes you feel very jealous.  The very idea of it might make you feel sick inside, or it may make you feel angry at the other person.  You may even feel possessive, as if the other person is on your turf, stealing ‘your’ ex.

Have you figured out how you feel about your ex?  Did you decide that yes, I still love my ex?  It wouldn’t be surprising–most people who wonder about their feelings for their exes do still have some strings attached which need to be addressed.

You need to make a decision before getting over a break up, do you want to get back together with your ex or do you want to get over your ex?  Think about this carefully, and then do a search for more information on whichever option you choose.